I’ve experienced this to a similar degree. Most of my family are small town people and I grew up without money in a small town. I moved to Chicago where I’ve been relatively successful and want to share some of the experiences I’ve had with the people I love. But I think the best test of whether or not I can actually include someone in certain activities is how they show up to a funeral. The reason that this is a good test is because you can tell who put in even a smidgen of effort to try to look nice and be respectful and who didn’t. And having grown up without a lot of money, I can tell you right now that it doesn’t cost much to go to the thrift store to get something that looks even a little bit nice even if it’s not standard. The last funeral I went to, you could immediately tell which family members didn’t try at all and just showed up in sweat pants and tshirts. Those are the people I wouldn’t take to certain places. Id maybe take them to touristy places, but that’s about it.
I guess I usually do dress up somewhat for weddings in funerals but this makes me want to make it clear in my end affairs that I don’t care how people are dressed. I sorta get maybe why folks have wake and no funeral.
Huh, my reaction is the opposite. While I don’t actually care, if you have no respect, can’t make any effort, why are you even there? I probably have loved ones who are upset and they don’t need your BS.
The party that started this thread is an entire different form of lack of respect, but respect my family or eff off
I guess it comes down to if you feel clothing is respect. Im a hippie type so for myself I don’t care for these things. As I said I do dress up because I realize the importance to other folks but I would rather folks be there if they want to be than meet a dress code to impress.
I mean, imagine how much time and mobey you’d save! You can bury grandpa at 3, and get married at 4! You only need to rent one space (perhaps redecorate a bit) and one cake, and the best part? Everyone is already there, so you don’t have to invite them again.
Plus, you don’t even need two outfits if you just get clothes that are black on the inside and another color on the outside, and then just turn them over! If you’re wearing a suit, all you have to do is change your black tie to another one.
I’ve experienced this to a similar degree. Most of my family are small town people and I grew up without money in a small town. I moved to Chicago where I’ve been relatively successful and want to share some of the experiences I’ve had with the people I love. But I think the best test of whether or not I can actually include someone in certain activities is how they show up to a funeral. The reason that this is a good test is because you can tell who put in even a smidgen of effort to try to look nice and be respectful and who didn’t. And having grown up without a lot of money, I can tell you right now that it doesn’t cost much to go to the thrift store to get something that looks even a little bit nice even if it’s not standard. The last funeral I went to, you could immediately tell which family members didn’t try at all and just showed up in sweat pants and tshirts. Those are the people I wouldn’t take to certain places. Id maybe take them to touristy places, but that’s about it.
If my sweet hoodie means you won’t take me with you to cool places, that just makes my hoodie a better friend.
I guess I usually do dress up somewhat for weddings in funerals but this makes me want to make it clear in my end affairs that I don’t care how people are dressed. I sorta get maybe why folks have wake and no funeral.
Huh, my reaction is the opposite. While I don’t actually care, if you have no respect, can’t make any effort, why are you even there? I probably have loved ones who are upset and they don’t need your BS.
The party that started this thread is an entire different form of lack of respect, but respect my family or eff off
I guess it comes down to if you feel clothing is respect. Im a hippie type so for myself I don’t care for these things. As I said I do dress up because I realize the importance to other folks but I would rather folks be there if they want to be than meet a dress code to impress.
I’ve always found it very bizarre we equate wearing uncomfortable clothing with respect.
Interesting family you got there.
I mean, imagine how much time and mobey you’d save! You can bury grandpa at 3, and get married at 4! You only need to rent one space (perhaps redecorate a bit) and one cake, and the best part? Everyone is already there, so you don’t have to invite them again.
Plus, you don’t even need two outfits if you just get clothes that are black on the inside and another color on the outside, and then just turn them over! If you’re wearing a suit, all you have to do is change your black tie to another one.
thanks. I edited it. I honestly have no idea how I do these types of things in my writing.
Gotta combine expenses and get the most out of your venue rental.
Granny’s funeral and Emma’s wedding two weeks apart? In this economy?