Crazy stalker. I have no idea who it is. Reported it to the police multiple times but nothing came out of it.
Is this seriously you that happened this to or are you just sharing some random screenshots?
If this is really you, I’d genuinely ask them. Like, why they are doing this to you, where they know you from. This might give you some insight on who they are, where they know your from and their motivations.
If you just block you without interacting, of course they want to continue trying to get responses, but if you understand it, you might get some usable information and see why they act like that.
Do not take this advice. Do not engage.
You may be able to reverse search the number and find out the provider then reach out to them and report him, hopefully that will hinder him from getting burner numbers easily.
IMO he is spoofing numbers so he can set anything as a call ID anyway.
I was called by spoofers for a few weeks (same exact time every day but with a different number). My (European) provider said they can’t do anything about it.
Truthfully nobody is safe on our current phone system.
Even though this is not probably what is happening to OP and I don’t want to overly worry them but checkout this video by Veritasium :
https://youtu.be/wVyu7NB7W6Y?si=HG6zC6YnXsjqt89-
Maybe OP should change completely of phone number.
Trivial for law enforcement, almost impossible for regular people
Depends if you’re in a country where ID has to be shown and registered in a database when activating a SIM card.
It is likely a voip that is being used.
for some reason telecoms worldwide are allowing voip companies to spoof almost any number - you can ID them but require cooperation of too many companies for a single individual without a court warrant
reporting it to police is good because it leaves a paper trail. did you show the messages to police too? the stalker sounds real crazy, so i think it will help your case.
That’s crazy. I bet you can send a link that if clicked will expose more of their info?
Omg that’s fucking scary. Sleep with a knife under your pillow wtf. Police are useless sometimes. Sorry this is happening.
After I filed my first police report. I’m afraid they’re useless on purpose. Hid the police station name to not dox myself.have you shown this to real life friends and family? people need to know to keep an eye on you and if you know who this person is, them as well. – oh also if its a local station and you talked to a person come back and show the response. likely they are full of shit and I will tell you that there are actually plenty of cops who want to protect and serve despite internet overall feelings on cops. I was stopping by once a week with videos of the gangbangers in a bad neighborhood and you could see the cops were not happy this shit was happening. Eventually the gangbangers learned that if they could see my house it could see them and they did not hang out in visual distance of it.
Why are you Ok with this? I would walk into the police station and say you want this to end. It is surprisingly easy to get a restraining order.
Restraining order against whom? An unknown person using throwaway phone numbers?
Jesus christ. I’m wondering I the stalker is a cop 🤔
Have you have an interaction with a cop recently (before the stalking started)?
No. :( I’m pretty sure this is some wealthy man and here he was referencing bribes and favours. For example the gifts he mentioned in the first screenshot I posted were an iPhone 16 Pro Max, Macbook Pro, Airpods Max & Pro gen2. So he obviously has money.
Bruh, that is so fucked up.
I’m not sure if there’a any way to get out of this.
What does the press in your country look like?
Maybe talk to journalist?
I wonder if any of the devices (assuming you still have them) might be a route to identifying where and when they were purchased.
The phone’s IMEI number for example, is unique to that specific device - so in theory there ought to be a way to find out exactly who sold it, where, when and ideally to whom.
Not that this is something for you to do yourself, but it could be a line of enquiry for police or (as I suggested in a previous comment) a lawyer.
That’s sadly not uncommon.
How long have they been messaging you? Are there other cases where they’ve indicated knowledge of “real life” events?
To me it seems more likely they’ve compromised your email or texts than that they got lucky and observed you going to the police station. If you mentioned in a digital communication to anyone that you were going to file a report, and the stalker compromised something digitally, then they would know.
For the stalker to actually observe you going to the police they would have to be pretty dedicated to watching your home, which is both risky (that they could be seen) and labor intensive.
If you drove there, it’s conceivable that they put a tracker on your vehicle.
Probably doesn’t need saying but I think it’s extremely unlikely they have sway over the police or made a report disappear. It’s easy enough for nothing to happen in the normal course of business.
Lastly, do you live with someone or have a close relationship with someone that you don’t get along with? If you’re experiencing “real life” interactions with this stalker seems more likely it’s someone you know rather than a complete stranger.
Vehicle trackers are cheap and common enough. OP should definitely check for that.
Why not change your number?
And have them follow to new number after number because they are one of the 100s of people who have OP’s number legitimately? Why disrupt your whole life for this asshole. Better to get them caught and be done with it.
If that’s the case I assume OP knows who they are in reality or can figure it out pretty easily. From there either legal action or a beating can be administered, as appropriate.
Knowing how useless the cops are when it comes to doing anything that involves them having to voluntarily fill out paperwork, I imagine the legal avenue won’t do much until after OP has been assaulted. Violence is bad, but it’s hard to argue against results…
How would they keep getting the new number though lol
How would OP stop them getting the new number if OP doesn’t know who they are?
It could be any of the many people who has her current number and would likely be given it again freely when the number was changed.
Consider Turning off read receipts so they will not know you saw the message. Control the data flow.
https://support.apple.com/guide/iphone/turn-read-receipts-on-or-off-iph5e713a045/ios
(I’m assuming they know you block them by the “read” in the chat program, if you reply to them, that’s different, and consider stopping that. Don’t give them any attention)
It looks like it’s some “nice guy”. Send a link “ok you definitely won my heart now, click here to see my nude”. When the word “nude” appears, his small brain goes in overflow, and his dick will let him click that link. The link is something that let you track his ip address AND shows a dick pick, for immediate brain crash
Tell me you’re not a woman without telling me you’re not a woman.
- set up feetpic onlyfans with contract that says “by subscribing you agree to only contact me through onlyfans”.
- send stalker a message: “ok u win here is my onlyfans”
- give onlyfans account to a friend and tell them you’ll split the income if they run it and post pictures of their feet
- if stalker contacts you outside of onlyfans then sue them for breach of contract, you have their cc now
- slowly start raising subscription price
- profit
You think that’s funny! I’ll fucking kill you! You have no idea how nice I am! Why won’t you be with me ILL MURDER YOU IN YOUR SLEEP I’M SO NICE YOU HAVE NO IDEA
Yeah maybe don’t do this.
Yeah, don’t do this… If the guy is a Nice Guy™, offering up fake nudes is just going to feed into their delusion as confirmation of their approach and make them feel even more entitled. And if the nudes end up being a dick pic, they usually end up getting violent and threatening instead of backing off.
As another commenter said: control the data flow to make it impossible for the guy to tell if you ever received his message and document everything. DIY cyber vigilantism doesn’t do anything to deter crazy fucks like him.
Bad advice. Don’t engage stalkers in any capacity, let alone trying to trick them. The last thing you want to do is to make them feel embarrassed or threatened.
You should send the cops ever-increasing stalker messages. See what their reaction is. /s
If they can change numbers so can you even if you shouldn’t have to. It would be annoying but better a terrible end then terror without end.
I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. I don’t know if you’re comfortable doing it, but I would post the number. Each time they text from a new number, post it. Hell, make a new Lemmy community just for posting their number each time. on top of that, turn off read receipts. Between no contact from you and unceasing contact from others, they may eventually determine it’s not worth the effort.
Okay this is probably bad advice, feel free to ignore:
Why not pretend you are interested and pretend you want to meet up
Then get a bunch of trusted friends to go and “confont” this person (with baseball bats).
okay yea this could go very wrong, but it is an option
But real advice, carry pepper spray, and if you are in a country that permits firearms, get a gun to carry with you (if you are comfortable with handling firearms, that is).
As for the messages, you can block anything not in your contacts.
Filter messages from unknown senders
With iMessage, you can prevent unknown senders from texting you directly. Their messages are filtered to another folder, and you don’t get notified about them.
Go to Settings > Apps > Messages.
Scroll down to Message Filtering, then turn on Filter Unknown Senders.
If this setting is on and you’re missing a message, check to see if it was filtered to Unknown Senders. Tap Filters in the top-left corner of the conversation list, then tap Unknown Senders.
Note: You canʼt open any links sent by an unknown sender until you make them a known sender—by adding them to your contacts or replying to the message.
From Apple website: https://support.apple.com/guide/iphone/block-filter-and-report-messages-iph203ab0be4/ios
For phone calls (in case the person tries to call):
Send unknown and spam callers to voicemail
Go to Settings > Apps > Phone, then tap any of the following:
Silence Unknown Callers: You get notifications for calls from people in your contacts, recent outgoing calls, and Siri Suggestions.
Call Blocking & Identification: Turn on Silence Junk Callers (available with certain carriers) to silence calls identified by your carrier as potential spam or fraud.
From Apple website: https://support.apple.com/guide/iphone/block-or-avoid-unwanted-calls-iphe4b3f7823/ios
Have you written your will?
/s
I think less than five people know my real phone number. I have been using the same “Google Voice” number to forward to my phone since the service was called Grand Central (pre-Google buy out). It filters out calls and texts from disposable VOIP numbers by default. They go straight to SPAM. You can port your main number to Google Voice and forward it back to your current phone. You can also text and call from your new phone through Google Voice so the people on the other line still see your original number and only you know it has been ported.
They could be tracking you by your phone number. Yes just the phone number, not an app on the phone.
If you need to keep your current number, Port it to twilio, filter out all VoIP numbers, and then forward the call to your new phone number, or text message. And don’t text anybody back unless you know them.
The phone number on your phone is like a social security number, with it people can find out basically everything about you. If they want to spend enough money. So don’t give it to anybody
Check your vehicle, your purse, for tracking devices.
If you don’t need to keep your current phone number, get a new phone number, don’t give it to anybody. Set up Google voice, and use the Google voice number for people to contact you. We mostly use apps nowadays anyway, so anything on Google voice is just going to be new contacts or maybe a doctor’s office. But if that number leaks somehow, it can’t be used to track your location.
