Ooh, a Pez dispenser!

It seems people like seeing a villain somewhere. Good vs bad is convenient. Shades and nuance aren’t easy. (I get it. I stopped talking about my struggles caring for my disabled partner. I’m not a bad person for being tired and wanting a little support. She’s not a bad person for having needs she cannot fulfill without extra help. No one is wrong, situation just sucks.)

I’m sorry I don’t have an answer for you, but you are seen. It is indeed exhausting to have to justify all the time especially when you need support.

Legs for days

I didn’t realize I was ND for the longest time, until my doctor brought it up.

I dated quite a few ND folks of different flavors. Some of them I thought were NT but later got a diagnosis.

I am friends with NT people, but I just tend to gravitate towards ND romantically. I don’t even think I consciously do it. It’s a lot easier to be myself around folks that just “get it” I suppose.

My current partner (ND) and I can play off of each other’s strengths. Our shortcomings are not symmetrical at all so we can manage quite well. An example is that I am very organized. I can make sure nothing falls through the cracks. My partner is quite disorganized, but is really good at focusing on tiny minute details of her current task and pulling together something amazing.

I do like hearing from my NT friends and we do sometimes discuss things like current events and things that have happened around us. We like discussing the things that we got and the things we missed. But romantically? I’m not sure if that is for me. Special interests? Missed cues? Weird things I’m particular about? My NT friends can handle that in small doses from me, but I’m not sure they could handle it full time.