I don’t know if this is worth anything to you, just know you’re not alone in your struggle. I get it too. I constantly agonize over how to just let things go, even the old scars. I think I cope with it best by accepting the human nature of it. Any creature reacting to negative stimulus with enough memory to remember the event would do the same. I was hurt, monkey no like hurt, think about how to prevent hurt. loop for x times. Many factors can multiply x. We get some bonus multipliers from the neurodivergence, sure, but It’s normal enough for Disney to make a song out of the feeling afterall. You’re doing well to control your substances, I’d benefit from the same. Take care stranger.
It would have cost you nothing to just not post this