Ex-egg. Turns out wishing you were a girl does work.
Oh! Is that what it is?
I’ve been using my “girl voice” all the time now, and while I might be said to present somewhat androgynous, I’m perhaps not obviously trying to appear feminine. BUT, when I talk to people, they (particularly men) have started responding in much softer tones after they hear my voice. I thought they might just be imitating me, but could it be their “talking to women” voice? I hope so :3
This, for real though. You can often tell you’ve made it when people stop treating you specially.
By way of analogy: I live in a non-English-speaking part of the world, and was very self-conscious about my language ability. To begin with, everyone told me “you speak very well” (with an implied “for a foreigner”), but after a lot of practice that finally gave way to a curt “that’s wrong” whenever I slipped up. Now people generally assume I was born here to immigrant parents.
Gender-wise (although I’m nowhere near female-passing yet), I guess things like double-takes in bathrooms, or people being “gentlemanly” are good things to look out for?
I just switched. It’s so nice cutting out the application and drying time twice a day. I was expecting the oily depot injection to be painful, but it wasn’t at all. Not sure what fluctuating hormone levels is going to be like, but at least I have gel as a backup.
My doctor doesn’t offer self injections, but I’d like to start at some point, especially once we’ve got the dose figured out.
Joined in club activities that I haven’t been to in a few months. Not out there, but also not hiding anything. Got a lot of “I thought some new girl had joined at first, but it was only you!” comments :3 (This is a 95% male club, so I guess they noticed something!)
I’m taking that as a win. I wonder what they’ll say this time next year?
That must have felt great; I’m so happy for you <3
Sweeet! That hair rocks.
Niiice <3
Oh yeah and I’m getting my hair dyed this week!
Ooh, what color?
… TWO months HRT (ah, ah, ah) …
So I got my GID diagnosis at last! I’m now certified Trans, for what it’s worth. Switching from DIY to prescription injections next week, yay ~
Plus a surprising (welcome) result in the Japanese election. Hope for marriage equality in the near future?
Well, hopefully nobody, but it implies revolution: which again requires quite a bit of social organization but is something that does still happen around the world.
Now, whenever this topic comes up the standard objection is that a group of private citizens couldn’t beat, say, the US military, but that’s not the point: you need to overthrow the government. If the military supports you (unlikely) or refuses to get involved (possible), this is a much more realistic proposition.
Sure! As the saying goes: soap box, ballot box, ammo box – in that order. But it’s hard work. The crazies are motivated, so we must be too.
Talk to people. Show them that trans people are not demons (most of the time). Make friends. Let them know that these laws hurt you and people like you. Get involved in the community. Contact your elected representative in government. Often. Get other people to do so too. Join or support an activist organization. Get involved in politics. Run for office. Vote! And make sure others do too.
Failing that, emigrate :3
Neither in nor from the US, and I’m worried…
Definitely vote, if you’re able to!
Just one of those “keep putting one foot in front of the other” weeks…
Yeup.
Good luck; you got this, dude!
It’s pretty warm today, so I threw on a T-shirt and was about to head outside when I caught sight of myself in the mirror. Oh my god, the pokeys! Hmm, well a light sweater couldn’t hurt. Even so, there’s a definite… shape.
You guys, I think I might have boobs now <3
Totally. The “haha, memes” -> “wait, that’s a bit too relatable” -> “oh noooooo” pipeline is real!
Probably the best answer is: talk to a therapist.
Having said that, I didn’t. But you should know that it’s really easy to convince yourself that everything is fine when it isn’t, and difficult to figure out what’s actually wrong. (And then in my case, realize I actually did know all along, and was just suppressing it).
A couple of resources that may help you figure out your gender are:
I mean, some people figure it out before puberty, but it’s faster than me at 40! And there are many people transitioning much later still. Enjoy being young and pretty!
I always used to think that moisturizer was kind of a scam. I’m sorry, and I take it all back.
My skin is turning into tissue paper! (And looking niiice <3) It’s soaking up pretty much anything I can throw at it. Now if I can just grow my hair a bit longer and shed those last 15kg or so…