People always seem shocked when I’m offended by terms like “I hate men”.

Like it’s somehow wrong of me to be offended by blatant misandry because I should just “know what they mean”. I’m one of “the good ones, they don’t mean me when they say it”. Horseshit.

How did “grieve different” become don’t grieve at all? I’d be willing to bet that if men started grieving exactly like women, they still wouldn’t get the support they need.

I remember something similar to this when my mom died 15 years ago. Lots of aunt’s and friends reaching out to my sister to support her, traveling across the country to visit. I don’t think I ever even got a note.

But I do have the thing where I probably wouldn’t have cared either, if not for watching the support my sister got, it never would have occurred to me someone could do those things. And I know those people aren’t my actual friends, so I really had zero expectations from them. I think it was more the insult on top of injury that bothered me. “Not only do we not care, but we’re going to show you what we would be doing if we did care.”

I never took this as a boy/girl thing though. I never fit in in life, still to this day. Just sorta expected.

“Men are victims of the patriarchy too” is an incredibly powerful message that I wish more men understood.

I thought men were supposed to suffer in silence then die early from stress and chemical numbing?

Edit: Funny this popped up in lemmy today https://lemmy.world/post/8222670

I am seeing a lot of pushback–presumably from feminists–towards men that are expressing their experiences.

Guys it’s okay to cry.

It’s ok to have emotions.

It’s ok to not be ok.

…But that has not been my experience.

Should it be? Yes, absolutely. But is it now? No. And unfortunately, in my experience, the women that are saying such things–almost always self-identifying feminists–are also often then ones that are unaccepting of any display of emotion in men that aren’t coming from a place of strength. Men are e.g., expected to shrug off grief and depression and go back to work the day after a funeral. I shan’t be too specific for risk of doxxing myself, but I’ve noted that I’m expected to muscle through physical pain and mental exhaustion, while none of my partners–either current or former–will hold themselves to the same standard that I am held to by them.

I cynically think that many self-identifying feminists don’t want to abolish patriarchy, they just want to be able to benefit from it the same way that men do, without paying any of the costs for that benefit that men shoulder.

International Men’s Day – 19th of November.

https://internationalmensday.com/

Talk to each other. Don’t let someone go through their life alone.

Yesterday I had a comment from a woman friend along the line of “my daughter says you’re always serious but nice. You should work on that”. She didn’t think of asking me why I am always serious…