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First of all, I am a sociopath. You know I’m also very fragile about my self-perceptions about gender and status, so any intimacy or attempted emotional connection is a threat. I’ll pretend to be fine right now, but I’m definitely going to ruminate on this and lash out later for reasons not even I fully understand. So watch your ass.
I am not “boy”, I am “Supreme Commander Gazbog, trilord of the seven kingdoms, archduke of omicron perseii 4 & union leader of the teamsters local 644”, and you will address me as such…
Okay let me just ask: How old are you? I wanna know how long till you can get away from this menace.
A couple of years left.
Start your plans to escape now even though it’s a few years away.
Find sympathetic family members or close friends who’d be willing to take you in. Preferably someone who your dad doesn’t know, or at the least doesn’t know where they live.
Act as you usually would around him, don’t have him suspect anything.
When the time comes, spring your plan into motion. Notify your contacts that you’ll need to be picked up. Pack essentials into a bag. Include vital documentation (birth certificate, social security card, ID) since those can be difficult to replace. Bring your pets if you have them. Leave in the middle of the night when he’s sleeping. Don’t leave a note. Turn off read receipts on your messaging application. Minimize as much leverage as he has over you.
You’re escaping abuse, so your own personal safety here is paramount, don’t feel like you’re obligated to him in any way. He will try to manipulate you if he knows where you went, so it’s best to just ghost entirely.
Keep your head down, find a good network of extended friends/family you can bolt to in tough times if you haven’t already. Your home is likely a pressure cooker you do not want to be in when you don’t have to be. I’m sorry you have to grow up with this, it’s not right.
Thanks. I do keep my head down, but he’s very easily irritable. The context of this message for example is I asked him if he could extend my 10 pm bedtime (which is crazy for someone my age to begin with) by JUST 30 MINUTES.
Jesus your father is a jailer.
Does he ever get physically abusive?
He has a special belt he named “St Nicholas”. “Go fetch St Nicholas for me”. That’s all I have to say.
You need to contact CPS right away or whatever your equivalent is if not in the US.
Unfortunately in the “great” state of Texas where we live corporal punishment with belt, brush, etc. does not constitute child abuse.🙃
Document that shit, leave your phone on recording (discretely away from you).
Dude, at your age, I would go out with friends and not come back until noon the next day. All of that without ever telling them I was going out in first place.
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Good luck buddy you got this
Not to take light of the situation, but 10 pm bedtime isn’t unreasonable if you have problems waking up in the morning.
I have no context therefore I won’t judge.
Please stay safe, it’s unfortunate that humans such as your dad, sir, has children and no idea how to raise them.
I don’t gave issues waking up. I wake up at 6 am daily to do chores for him or the house if he’s sleeping in.
Ok understood. You sound awesome and don’t deserve the ire of that human.
I feel you. You do not deserve this! No child deserve this…
I hope you have the mental fortitude to survive.
Yes daddy o
Sorry you have to keep your head down like this. I hope you feel safe. Save texts like this somewhere safe, three places at least.
Life will get better. This man’s shade may haunt you, and I suggest you get therapy for it. You don’t have to be him, and once you are on your own you can call him whatever you want.
You don’t even need to talk to him
I imagine butterscotch horseman saying this
That show was amazing for how I could match quotes from his mother to mine!
This is a good way to make certain that I only show up to your funeral to make sure you’re dead.
I’ve met people like this. They have the 70’s style mindset and are terrible leaders.
This is clearly a Dom/Sub relationship. Don’t kink shame.
I’ll take “dad’s who die alone in retirement homes” for 3000, Alex
Op should send that back in reply lmao
With dad crossed out.: “I’ll take
dadssirs who die alone in retirement homes for 3000, Alex”**sirs who die alone in retirement homes
I vote for him to stay in his own unmaintained home rather than making the other residents deal with him.
If you’re not estranged, there are a number of states that will require you to ensure they’re cared for, and even require you to pay the state back for their care.
Also a possibility of being charged with elder abuse, if you witness an elderly parent living in squalor.
That’s my dad. I’m no contact for over 20 years. I told him the only way I would talk to him again is if he would go to a psychiatrist/psychologist with me (I want to make sure) his answer was a string of offenses. Now he talks to my SIL about how much he loves me but that I never rewlly loved him and he don’t know why. The audacity
kick him in his tiny balls and call him boy from now on
Hot him with the 👍
Or the 🖕🫵💀
Not much an internet stranger can offer but best wishes and recognition that you understanding its a problem is a sign you already have to tools to move on and succeed, make good choices and keep yourself safe and well when you can.
Good luck to you.
He’s right about one thing, he doesn’t deserve to be called “dad”. I think I speak for all us decent dads here when I say any one of us would be proud to have a kid who’s as smart, capable, and levelheaded as you sound. Keep your head down and get out as soon as you can.
Make it a point to call everyone “sir”. Cashiers, Waiters, people providing you with services, pets, inanimate objects, digital assistants…
Most importantly: your friends.
When an honorific is used for everyone, it ceases to be an honorific.
I have a cousin who has a knighthood and he hates it when I call him ‘sir,’ so I do it to annoy him. He’s a physicist. (He was much more honored by winning an Ig Nobel Prize.)
To be fair, I would be too. He told me the queen asked him what he was there for and when he tried to explain it in brief, she just looked confused and moved on.
I’ve lived in the southern US a good portion of my life, where a lot of parents go by “sir” and “ma’am” and you are expected to call others in public as “sir” and “ma’am” respectively. So, while I see what you’re saying, the father in this case may agree unironically.
There are two types of people I call “Sir”: People I respect, and people I detest. I know the difference. I care not whether the detestable can figure out which category they occupy. That they false believe they have my respect serves me more than their belief I hold them in contempt.
You should answer with: Looks who is going to end up abandoned in the retirement home
