But I want it so badly! All i need to figure out is:
reverse proxys (I stumbled through getting one caddy instance setup so far but gosh I struggle with that also, nginx proxy manager seems like my next step)
a rock solid backup/restore setup (but first I need to figure out where the vaultwarden alpine files live, then be able to get those off of the proxmox vm)
this is more of a vent, than a request for someone to spell it all out for me. But I wouldn’t be upset if anyone had the time to point me in the right direction for me.
Would it just be easier to run a keypass XC and syncthing setup?
Bitwarden is cheap enough, and I trust them as a company enough that I have no interest in self hosting vaultwarden.
However, all these hoops you have had to jump through are excellent learning experiences that are a benefit to apply to more of your self hosted setup.
Reverse proxies are the backbone of hosting and services these days.
Learning how to inspect docker containers, source code, config files and documentation to find where critical files are stored is extremely useful.
Learning how to set up more useful/granular backups beyond a basic VM snapshot in proxmox can be applied to any install anywhere.
The most annoying thing about a lot of these is that tutorials are “minimal viable setup” sorta things.
Like “now you have it setup, make sure you tune it for production” and it just ends.
And finding other tutorials that talk about the next step, to get things production ready, often reference out dated versions, or have different core setups so doesn’t quite apply.
I understand your frustrations.